We need to talk about…Peer Support


There’s a lot of talk about Peer Support at the moment.

The Q community is working on it.

There was a Peerfest” day in Wales the other day.

NESTA produced a report a few years ago analysing what works.

Click to access peer_support_-_what_is_it_and_does_it_work.pdf

And there are lots of other resources for learning about it.

So what is Peer Support?


Wikipedia: “Peer support occurs when people provide knowledge, experience, emotional, social or practical help to each other.”

I like that.

Note the “or”. You don’t have to be a trained expert for peer support to work. Just need to have lived experience and a degree of emotional intelligence and self-awareness.

At the upcoming UK Dementia Congress in November in Doncaster, there are several sessions devoted to early stage dementia, young onset dementia, and what support people living with dementia want.

I am part of the DEEP network, which has over 80 peer support groups are ind the country. DEEP is Dementia Empowerment and Engagement Project. It’s fab.

And I have started two DEEP peer groups in Shropshire. ‘Cos there’s nothing else for early stage dementia.


What do we talk about?

If you’ve ever been to a group of people living with dementia you’ll know that conversations are chaotic but huge fun. We drift in and out of conversations. We start sentences we can’t finish. We are totally random at times.

And the great thing is? It doesn’t matter a damn.

We talk about holidays and visits. The Memory Service or taking pills. Cakes and favourite foods.

We grumble a little sometimes about our spouses or families, how they choose our drinks and meals, finish our sentences, speak for us.

And we just laugh at the absurdity of it all.

Oh and we always have a ritual of checking the date of the next meeting, because we often forget. One of my friends emailed me late last night apologising for forgetting the meeting yesterday. Which wasn’t yesterday, but next week.

Happens all the time.

We all need iPads or tablets and to use those calendars! And reminders.

We help each other with smart phone or tablet difficulties.

And when we leave, after cake, coffee or tea, we are uplifted. Ready for the next s**t coming our way.


“Peer support occurs when people provide knowledge, experience, emotional, social or practical help to each other.”

I’ve been at several meetings in recent months where I’ve promoted the idea that for early stage dementia peer support groups are the thing that really makes a difference. And that they’re cheap to run. And that basically unless there’s some nut like me willing to organise a group it takes a little facilitation time to get one going.

That’s cheap. It’s cost effective. It’s what we want.

Until you’ve joined one you don’t know how supportive a peer group can be. And you look around in Day Dementia cafes, diamond cafes, forget me not cafes…and think, oh god, not yet. I can’t stand those. I do not want to spend time with people with later Dementia, playing games and drawing.

Sorry. It just isn’t for us.

We want, no, we need to be out and about. Chatting, shopping, walking, drinking…whatever it is that makes us/you happy. That helps us get over the everyday little that happen.

The empty boiled kettle. The miserable feeling of loneliness. The lost screwdriver. The forgotten name. And the memory of what we once were and did but now cannot.

So let’s hear it for peer support. And if you do nothing else this year, lobby your commissioners to pay the small amount that a facilitator would cost for starting peer groups in your area.

Perhaps I’ll see you at the Congress. I’m chairing one of the sessions. Make sure you say hello.


3 thoughts on “We need to talk about…Peer Support

  1. Dear George When is our next date for our Deep meeting in the Recreation Cafe please. Please use my mobile phone to let me know details for the forseable future as my flooded home is no longer in use.  They are bringing in drying equipment on monday. We have been holed up in Queens Heat for almost three weeks. We can only stay for 28 days and so we are now trying to organise another place to move too on November 3rd – last week I completed two dementia friends sessions, spent one day on the dementia roadshow bus at Oswestry, Did trailblazers and lots of other things – I have come to the opinion that Dementia has to take second place in the scheme of things, we are far too busy doing important things. love from lizzie😎

    Sent from Samsung Mobile on O2


    • Liz, sorry you’re having trouble with accommodation while out of your house. I haven’t got your mobile number. Don’t write it here!
      Next DEEP meeting is next Wednesday 25th October.


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