I met a group of carers of people living with dementia. Lovely bunch of people. Very positive and unsentimental, but very aware of their loss of the loved one they had known for many years.
Some of the cared for had died, some were in care homes, and one was at a day centre to allow the carer respite time. Probably very good social activity for the person with dementia as well.
Their stories were heartfelt and touching. They spoke highly of the memory service outreach staff who supported them whenever they could, however they could. Those in Telford had high praise for their Admiral Nurses. (Shropshire does not commission Admiral Nurses, though I have yet to get a satisfactory or clinical explanation from the CCG.)
I asked about the support they get. Their peer group meets every month, quarterly for lunch. They can talk to memory service staff if they need to, though not always the same day.
Do you get respite? Very little. British Red Cross and another charity provide some now and then for an hour or two, but little else.
“We just want a few hours here and there so we can relax, unwind, garden, shop, whatever, without worrying constantly.”
Does your cared for attend a day centre? Some do, perhaps a half day a week. But day centres are having funding cut so they are more expensive and less available.
Have you had any support from a dementia navigator or adviser?
Never heard of one.
But commissioners have told the ADASS survey recently that most providers have dementia advisers for every person with dementia who wants one.
Hmm. Never heard of that.
What have you found difficult and needed or wanted help with?
Bureaucracy and barriers. Especially with getting Continuing Health Care (CHC).
The council just say no all the time, and give you another form to fill in. They make it so difficult most people give up trying to get benefits or support.
“When my wife was assessed for CHC, there was only a social worker present. There’s meant to be a nurse as well, to provide clinical assessment. I objected but it did no good.”
Now, in Shropshire there are an estimated 5,000 people living with dementia, of whom around 60% have a diagnosis. A third of those with diagnoses live in care homes, ie around 1,000. (Figures updated from 2013 Shropshire Dementia Strategy.)
Which leaves 2,000 people with a diagnosis in the community with around 2,000 carers. (And 2,000 more who are undiagnosed and therefore unsupported.)
How many peer support groups are there in Shropshire for carers? I know of one. Perhaps there are three.
How many dementia cafes and diamond centre drop ins are there? Around six or seven I think.
How many carers attend these? Max 100 I suggest, perhaps 150.
How many carers get precious little support?
And the same goes for the people with the diagnosis.
1,850 carers and people with a diagnosis are unsupported.
Another 2,000 people are undiagnosed, many of whom will have carers looking at after them.
In total, shall we say 4,500 people with dementia or caring for people with dementia.
So where does that leave support post diagnosis?
Well, nowhere really.
We should be ashamed.
We are nowhere.
What has our dementia strategy achieved so far?
Pretty much zilch.
If I am wrong please tell me.
But we’re not very sexy, us old’uns.
Mental health in general, is not very sexy.
Hide us away, like the good old days.
Ignore us, cos we always manage, don’t we?
And if we’re unhappy, well, just pull your socks up and get out more. There’s plenty worse off in the world.
And we can’t afford to spend any more.